Forgive them, they don't know what they do

I know... I should get over it, but it's still there. I'm trying to let go and I know that understanding the human nature of those who have hurt me should do the job... I hear the words "Father, forgive them, they don't know what they do"... and a part of me jumps on my seat and can't stay put: Shouldn't we let them know what they are doing? Shouldn't someone teach them a lesson? Do I really have to stay put and do nothing about it?
Why can't I just let it go?
Because I need to be recognized. I need to know that they know how they hurt me. I need empathy. I need it... I want it... And I don't want to let it rest until I know they know....I don´t want to forget until I can be sure it won't happen again... I don't want it to happen again. Who will acknowledge me...
And again my mind goes to that same scene where Jesus is just letting things happen and placing his spirit onto God's hands. And Jesus is telling me, without any words: I AM acknowledging you. I know how it hurts.. I know it's not fair. I know how painful and how broken you feel, and I know just how close you are to losing all faith in others, in yourself, and in God. I know because I went through it. So I'm going to take your hand and I'm going to let the pain die so that you can live again. You don't have to do anything, you don't have to speak, you don't have to make anyone realize, you don't have to teach anything, you don't have to try... I AM with you. That's why I did everything I did: to be with you...let Me be with you... let’s just be together, and let's let God do the rest.
Forgive them... please.